How to Fix a Broken Marriage Easily

How to fix a broken marriage: There is an adage that “Everything that has a beginning has an end”.  Can this also apply to a broken marriage? This answer will be given before the concluding part of the article. Keep reading to know what exactly can be done to fix a marriage that is already broken.

How to fix a broken marriage

What Can Cause a Broken Marriage?

Marriage does not break on its own. There must be a reason why it fails. What is the reason or reasons? In a minute, I will mention things that can cause a broken marriage. They are normal behaviors found in humans that can cause issues in any relationship.

The Irresponsibility of the Spouses

Every marriage needs a great commitment from the couples involved. Marriage is not a joke but unfortunately, that’s what many people take it to be and that’s why it will continue to fail. When the couples don’t take their responsibilities in a marriage, definitely such marriage will not work.

I know of many homes where the couples are only living together but there is no love or sympathy anymore. Maybe the couples decided to stay together for their children if they have or maybe to cover up a matter that mustn’t be exposed.

The problems of these homes are often irresponsible attitudes toward marriage. Maybe the husband is too lazy to provide what is expected of him or he is too careless that he doesn’t play his role as a husband. This kind of attitude can annoy the wife and from this point, there could be issues that can break the marriage.

Poor Communication

Some couples have this poor communication skills. It baffles me how I often witness many married people who don’t even talk to each other.

I used to think that they are bosses and servants in disguise. Even this modern-day, bosses and servants talk and sit together to gist. The case is different in most homes. The husband and the wife don’t understand each other, don’t share any moment together especially when children are involved.

Showing empathy to your spouse is very important. Most of us don’t think critically to understand our partners.

This kind of attitude will only worsen the case. When any issue arises, try and ask some certain questions to know why the other person has done what you think they did. There is a possibility that what you are thinking in your head is far different from what they did.

You can sit your partner down and ask him or her with an open mind that is ready to listen judiciously. If this is done, you are practicing good communication skills. From there, you will save your marriage from failure.

Suspicion Character

If you can do anything possible to get rid of anything suspicious from your heart, it will go a very long way in saving your marriage.

A person who loves to suspect people cannot make a real friend for 24 hours. There must be a fight every minute.

Suspicion character is so bad that if it were to be black ink, a drop of it can stain a whole ocean.  When you suspect people too much, you will find it difficult to trust them and if you cannot trust people, it means, you can’t live with them.

You must learn how to shun suspecting your spouse. Just focus on the most important aspects of your marriage.

I am not saying that you cannot investigate the movement of your spouse if it is genuine that you are suspecting that he or she is cheating on you. If you can ask some questions to clear your doubt, it is not bad at all.

Selfishness

If you are the selfish type, what you are doing automatically is negligence. You don’t give a care about your partner as you focus more on your own self. You only have concerns about your wellbeing. This is the reason why sympathy is very important in a marriage.

We all understand that love can die sometimes but still can be revived if there is sympathy or mercy between the husband and the wife. Mercy makes you understand the feelings of your partner and as such he or she will be happy to live with you have known that you care about them.

Nagging

Wow, nagging is the most active tool that can destroy a marriage. If you can’t see and keep quiet, definitely there will be a fight every single day. Both man and woman nag in a marriage or any kind of relationship.

A man that cannot ignore some mistake his wife made in the home will definitely complain and if the complaint is too much, the wife will retaliate with a word or two and before you know, a fight may arise. If the fight is too much, in the end, they both may go their separate ways—marriage is broken.

A troublesome woman cannot last in a marriage. Stay gentle and try to figure out why some things happen, study your husband, and formulate a better way to live with him. Your trouble may not even be towards your husband in some cases, but still can destroy your marriage.

I have heard a story of a beautiful woman that was divorced by her husband because she fights outsider a lot. The husband couldn’t bear the complaints people bring about her actions anymore, so he decided to call it an end.

How to Fix a Broken Marriage

Going by this context, it should be understood that every failed marriage is a broken marriage but every broken marriage is not a failed marriage. Some marriages are only broken but can still be fixed if the right measure is quickly taken. What are the right measures here? We are going to figure them out one after the other.

Work on Your Anger

Are you the type that gets angry easily? If you are, there is a very big problem. You must work on your ill-temper so that your marriage will last. Learn how to control your anger. There are lots of books out there that can teach you that. If you are not the type that loves reading books, there are millions of videos on YouTube to teach you how to control your anger.

Anger breaks marriage easily. Some of us don’t even know how to talk so when we get angry, we say silly things to our spouses. This is very bad. Marriage should be built upon patience. If not, it will soon collapse when built upon anger.

Discuss your Issues

Sometimes, when couples are immersed in the pool of fight and nagging every day, completely become unaware of the damage they are causing to themselves and the society or their own children. This is why the couples need to sit down, talk about their differences and find out how to provide solutions once and all. Some couples hire a qualified marriage counselor to advise them about their relationship and also suggest some principles through which they can further understand each other better.

Allow Each Other Your Rights

The husband and his wife have their rights in a relationship. You must allow each other to exercise those rights you have upon each other otherwise one may feel cheated especially the weak gender. If this kind of feeling continues to surface in a marriage, it may break it one day. So, your spouse has his or her right and must be allowed to take place.

Be Responsible

It is normal that the couples have their responsibility they need to take. Many homes today are not experiencing any peace just because the spouses focused more on unnecessary things rather than the marriage. As a responsible spouse, you know it is your responsibility to make certain things happen in your marriage.

For instance, if your wife is a full housewife, committed to taking care of you and the kids, then it is your responsibility to provide what your wife and the kids will eat, use or even drink on a daily basis. Failure to do these can force your wife to question you. If you still can’t reply to her query properly may lead to chaos. You need to be responsible, to fix that aspect of your marriage issues.

Learn to Listen Properly

Listening skill is not a natural gift to some of us and so, we don’t give a damn about how it affects our relationship with others. Some people restricted listening skills to only the voice of the person talking but listening is beyond that.

You should listen to your spouse’s body language, look at her appearance, facial expression, voice, and how she walks. You have to be very good observant to understand what is going on with your spouse. Once you detect any strange gesture, you can call for a sit and discuss what the matter could be. The discussion table may yield a lasting solution for the current problem.

Find a Means to Reconnect

Normally, when a husband and a wife get too used to each other, their love for each other may diminish but the good news is that it can always be rekindled. Perhaps you both are too busy to spend time with each other in the day; you can still look for a way to reconnect by setting up a night date.

What I am doing in this regard currently is planting a flowering tree. Once the tree is mature enough, I will beautify the surrounding as a night date spot for me and my wife. This will serve as a way to reconnect after hours of absence in the day.

Another aspect of reconnection in a relationship is when the spouses have had a fight and this is really affecting their affection for each other. They must find a way to reconnect if their marriage is still important to them. Some couples can go for an outing together, to ask each other certain questions, resolve their issues and then have fun as a means for reviving their feelings for each other.

Don’t ignore your spouse at all. Remember, the initial purpose of your getting married is attention and time—you don’t have any right to stop giving your time and attention to your spouse. This means you must create a means for spending time together every day.

The Signs of a Broken Marriage

Everything on earth has its signs. Even your gadgets will show some signs of potential damage prior to the time they stop working. The same phenomenon is possible in a marriage relationship. Most of us don’t pay attention to our relationship and this makes it difficult to detect these signs at their earliest stage. As a spouse, it is your responsibility to understand what these signs are.

You Are Always Against Each Other

This has to do with criticism. You always find blame in each other even when a matter is not worth it. Some people find a flimsy excuse just to create a scene with their spouse being a troublesome person. As soon as this happens in your relationship, it is a sign that such a relationship is failing already.

Sex Is Out of It

This may happen for many reasons. It could be that the bond between the spouses is no longer strong enough for them to engage in sex. Perhaps, the spouse caught each other in the act and as a result, hatred comes into play, this will reduce the urge for sex especially when the memory of the infidelity flashes the heart of the offended.

Sex may be denied due to a lack of interest by one of the partners. It happens that some couples may engage in religious acts that could hinder them from having sex with each other as suppose so, shortage of this matrimonial act will rise. If this continues to occur, it means one of the primary aims of marriage has been stripped off.

You Have the Same Argument All the Time

This is what I call the parabolic conflict in relationships. It is funny how some couples have the same argument over and over. I can now see that such an act lowers a standard human to animalistic nature. A human is created to advance every day and that is why every problem he encounters in life should be seen as a challenge so he can find a solution for it. This is not the case for some couples. They quarrel over the same issue over and over. This is very bad and shouldn’t be allowed to break our relationship with our spouses. If you discovered this constant but the same argument occurs, it is a red light that your marriage is near failure.

You don’t enjoy spending time together

What is the essence of being in a marriage in which the spouses don’t enjoy spending time together? Don’t allow this fact to shock you; it happens that couples that were married for love, who couldn’t stop spending the whole day together suddenly begin to separate from each other. They are not even interested in looking into each other’s eyes let alone spending time together. If this is your daily life with your spouse, please, find a solution. Create a way to reconnect once more.

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